Meditations on who is invited? Sitting down to the wedding banquet (or not)
That you need a village, if only for the pleasure of leaving it. Your own village means that you’re not alone, that you know there’s something of you in the people and the plants and the soil, that even when you are not there it waits to welcome you. — Cesare Pavese
Welcome home my dear, you are arrived. — Elton John
If you’ve ever been homesick, or felt exiled from all the things and people that once defined you, you’ll know how important welcoming words and friendly smiles can be. – Stephen King
Small cheer and great welcome makes a merry feast. — William Shakespeare
Welcome the present moment as if you had invited it. Why? Because it is all we ever have. — Pema Chodron
Welcome those big, sticky, complicated problems. In them are your most powerful opportunities. — Ralph Marston
Welcome to my house! Enter freely. Go safely, and leave something of the happiness you bring! — Bram Stoker
A smile is the universal welcome. — Max Eastman
SONGS about WELCOME & INVITATION (Or Not):
- Family Table by Zac Brown Band (country):https://youtu.be/Ic9CqnOCcI4
- Invitation performed by Rosemary Clooney (blues/jazz): https://youtu.be/z3IkB48eFjc
- Welcome to the Occupation by R.E.M. (rock): https://youtu.be/XARqoTAJFuM
- You’re Welcome from Disney’s Moana (musical): https://youtu.be/79DijItQXMM
- Uninvited by Alanis Morissette (indie/pop): https://youtu.be/uvgi7P97lu0
- We’re Not Invited, Are We? (The Party Song) by Daniel Konikoff (indie/pop): https://youtu.be/E2dfxzzOwWY
- Welcome to New York by Taylor Swift (pop): https://youtu.be/RvYysauPsMc
- Welcome to the Jungle by Guns n Roses (rock): https://youtu.be/o1tj2zJ2Wvg
- Roots / Welcome Home by Zac Brown Band (country): https://youtu.be/bW75vz11K98
- E.T. by Katy Perry ft Kanye West (pop/hiphop – explicit lyrics): https://youtu.be/t5Sd5c4o9UM
- Welcome Home by Dolly Parton (country): https://youtu.be/dHYoLrfkbKc
- Welcome to the Future by Brad Paisley (country): https://youtu.be/Y0Yg9wjctRw
- Who Invited You by The Donnas (rock): https://youtu.be/0cO7Cz9J_NU
- Life’s a Party and You’re Not Invited by Arvo to Me (instrumental/blues): https://youtu.be/UDyIptn28EI
- Welcome by Fort Minor (hip hop – explicit lyrics/cursing): https://youtu.be/REAwGmv0Fuk
- Not Invited by Holychild ft Mereki (pop/hiphop): https://youtu.be/z3IkB48eFjc
- Welcome to Paradise by Green Day (rock): https://youtu.be/OR7R9Kuw2fY
- Welcome Back performed https://youtu.be/Ic9CqnOCcI4by Mika Singh & John Abraham (pop/Bollywood): https://youtu.be/tbBFVpRmtvg
- I’m Not Invited by Biianco, Trace (pop): https://youtu.be/ZHQmjtJ4KhE
- Invitation by Why Don’t We (pop): https://youtu.be/941Bl3oxk8Y
- Welcome to the Machine by Pink Floyd (rock): https://youtu.be/lt-udg9zQSE
- Invited by Marcus & Martinus (pop): https://youtu.be/N_D45ZxViww
- Invite Me to Your Party by Tyler Ward (pop): https://youtu.be/bPqlvgAn0Q0
- Be Welcome by Atmosphere ft Ryan Kennedy (Christian): https://youtu.be/i6qu1nPKWtA
- Invitation by Byron Cage (Gospel): https://youtu.be/l4CYQRm1GXk
- Welcome the Healer by Passion (Christian): https://youtu.be/AjThJzjtOBo
- Welcome Here by Chris Quilala (Christian): https://youtu.be/69q9sOhhxnk
- Invited by Switch (Christian): https://youtu.be/bGMp-wxMvRc
- Welcome Back by John Sebastian (pop): https://youtu.be/IhzzAUaOzs
- Not Invited by 2 Chinz (rap / explicit lyrics – cursing): https://youtu.be/2KqpwJygUUM
- The Invitation by Meredith Andrews (Christian): https://youtu.be/kDe-dZNKeoE
- Bring It All by Hillsong (Christian): https://youtu.be/wA4IY8XMNYY
- Not Invited by Thomas Silver (rock): https://youtu.be/vxJHh7Ru_lc
- You’re Not Invited by Las Tetas (punk rock): https://youtu.be/1vf2trWzHRs
- Not Invited by Ann Beretta (rock): https://youtu.be/9RoawIj00fA
- You’re Not Invited to My Party by Neil Johnson (country): https://youtu.be/Qzac66Qu9pQ
WELCOMING BLESSING — Jan Richardson
When you are lost
in your own life.
When the landscape
you have known
falls away.
When your familiar path
becomes foreign
and you find yourself
a stranger
in the story you had held
most dear.
Then let yourself
be lost.
Let yourself leave
for a place
whose contours
you do not already know,
whose cadences
you have not learned
by heart.
Let yourself land
on a threshold
that mirrors the mystery
of your own
bewildered soul.
It will come
as a surprise,
what arrives
to welcome you
through the door,
making a place for you
at the table
and calling you
by your name.
Let what comes,
come.
Let the glass
be filled.
Let the light
be tended.
Let the hands
lay before you
what will meet you
in your hunger.
Let the laughter.
Let the sweetness
that enters
the sorrow.
Let the solace
that comes
as sustenance
and sudden, unbidden
grace.
For what comes,
offer gladness.
For what greets you
with kindly welcome,
offer thanks.
Offer blessing
for those
who gathered you in
and will not
be forgotten—
those who,
when you were
a stranger,
made a place for you
at the table
and called you
by your name.
Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can. — Dalai Lama
BLESSING THE THRESHOLD — Jan Richardson
This blessing
has been waiting for you
for a long time.
While you have been
making your way here,
this blessing has been
gathering itself,
making ready,
biding its time,
praying.
This blessing has been
polishing the door,
oiling the hinges,
sweeping the steps,
lighting candles
in the windows.
This blessing has been
setting the table
as it hums a tune
from an old song
it knows,
something about
a spiraling road
and bread
and grace.
All this time
it has kept an eye
on the horizon,
watching,
keeping vigil,
hardly aware of how
it was leaning itself
in your direction.
And now that
you are here,
this blessing
can hardly believe
its good fortune
that you have finally arrived,
that it can drop everything
at last
to fling its arms wide
to you, crying
welcome,
welcome,
welcome.
TO COME HOME to YOURSELF — John O’Donohue
May all that is unforgiven in you,
Be released.
May your fears yield
Their deepest tranquilities.
May all that is unlived in you,
Blossom into a future,
Graced with love.
Inspired by Joy Harjo’s Perhaps the World Ends Here, a collection of student poetry about everyday objects such as the kitchen table:
Mrs. Nazimek, 8th Grade, Washington
At The Table — Bryanna P.
At the table I play / games like Monopoly.
At the table I sometimes / get yelled at.
The table is like a sign / of bringing everyone together.
The table has been / through a lot and still
has not managed to chip / or break.
The table is a very / special thing.
At the table we laugh, / talk and sometimes even / fall asleep.
At the table there are / so many memories that / will never be forgotten.
Untitled — Maribel R.
The world begins at a dining room table.
You would eat at this table
This table had all my birthday cakes
This table had all my family dinners
All my homework has been done at this table.
After having so much homework on this
table I thought the table would collapse
Under the table are legs and my
dog spread out in the middle.
This table had our family gatherings.
This table has never been moved.
At this table we talk about anything.
This table has held my life together.
this table has seen sadness and
happiness.
This world will end at the dining
room table, while we are laughing
and having happiness.
Kitchen Table — Emily A.
We eat at this table,
delicious food that we can’t get sick of.
each day we converse at this talbe.
we talk about the good
and the bad…
We have heard some tragic things.
Other things were wonderful
We all reunite at this table.
It’s the only time we can be together.
It’s what got us closer,
What made us stronger,
What made us weaker,
What made us happier.
But whatever happens in the end,
we’ll all be together,
laughing, talking and gossiping
at the kitchen table.
Mrs. Strus, 7th Grade, Washington
Table of Memories — Gabriella S.
The table si where I enjoyed eating dinner with my
family.
The table is where I aged, and where everyone would
sing for me at each birthday.
the table is where we had long talks about life
and what it’s become.
The table is where I told my parents what I wanted to
be when I grew up.
the table is where I was taught to behave.
The table is where we played hours of games
as a family.
Lastly, the table is where I live and learn the
meaning of life.
The Table — Cesar L.
I have worked very hard
at the table. I hope to meet
family members I have never seen
at this table. There have been
fights at this table. Tears have
dropped on this table. I have cleaned
this table. It’s a brown wooden
table.
WELCOME — Stephen Dunne
if you believe nothing is always what’s left
after a while, as I did,
If you believe you have this collection
of ungiven gifts, as I do (right here
behind the silence and the averted eyes)
If you believe an afternoon can collapse
into strange privacies-
how in your backyard, for example,
the shyness of flowers can be suddenly
overwhelming, and in the distance
the clear goddamn of thunder
personal, like a voice,
If you believe there’s no correct response
to death, as I do; that even in grief
(where I’ve sat making plans)
there are small corners of joy
If your body sometimes is a light switch
in a house of insomniacs
If you can feel yourself straining
to be yourself every waking minute
If, as I am, you are almost smiling . . .
About WELCOME
The soul should always stand ajar, ready to welcome the ecstatic experience.— Emily Dickinson
The stories we love best do live in us forever. So, whether you come back by page or by the big screen, Hogwarts will always be there to welcome you home.— J.K. Rowling
One of the marvelous things about community is that it enables us to welcome and help people in a way we couldn’t as individuals. – Jean Vanier
To all my friends without distinction I am ready to display my opulence: come one, come all; and whosoever likes to take a share is welcome to the wealth that lies within my soul. — Antisthenese
God sends a welcome. — John Herschel
We are made for goodness. We are made for love…We are made for all of the beautiful things that you and I know. We are made to tell the world that there are no outsiders…all are welcome. – Desmond Tutu
Welcome to the present moment. Here. Now. The only moment there ever is. — Eckhart Tolle
Sometimes the hurdles aren’t really hurdles at all. They’re welcome challenges, tests. — Paul Walker
I’m open for choices. I always welcome new ideas. I’m always eager to learn. I’m never going to close my mind from learning. — Cesar Millan
Good company, good wine, good welcome, can make good people. — William Shakespeare, from The Life of King Henry the Eighth
Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don’t waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail.— Og Mandino
Welcome the challenges. Look for the opportunities in every situation to learn and grow in wisdom. — Brian Tracy
If the sign on your heart says “WELCOME”, the love will come pouring in from everywhere. — Susan Jeffers
Welcome out of the cave, my friend. It’s a bit colder out here, but the stars are just beautiful. —Plato
Joy waits on welcome, not time. – Robert Holden
When we are generous in welcoming people and sharing something with them some food, a place in our homes, our time-not only do we no longer remain poor: we are enriched. — Pope Francis
Sometimes, challenges and struggles are exactly what we need in our lives…May you welcome every effort, every struggle, and every challenge…May you open your wings and fly! — Miranda Kerr
For each and all I bid thee a grateful welcome home. — John Greenleaf Whittier
Listening is much more than allowing another to talk while waiting for a chance to respond. Listening is paying full attention to others and welcoming them into our very beings. — Henry Nouwen
There’s no substitute for a great love who says, ‘No matter what’s wrong with you, you’re welcome at this table. – Tom Hanks
Like a welcome summer rain, humor may suddenly cleanse and cool the earth, the air, and you. — Langston Hughes
I will always welcome joyfully any opportunity that comes my way to be of service to you. – Vincent de Paul
Only flowers of buckwheat
Can still be served on the mountain road,
To welcome you here.
— Matsuo Basho, translated by Toshiharu
Oseko
Cuckoo,
were you invited by the barley
plumed with seed?
— Matsuo Basho translated by David Landis Barnhill
The GUEST HOUSE — Rumi
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
MORNING OFFERING
— John O’Donohue
Bless the night that nourished my heart
To set the ghosts of longing free
Into the flow and figure of dream
That went to harvest from the dark
Bread for the hunger no one sees.
All that is eternal in me
Welcomes the wonder of this day,
The field of brightness it creates
Offering time for each thing
To arise and illuminate.
I place on the altar of dawn:
The quiet loyalty of breath,
The tent of thought where I shelter,
Waves of desire I am shore to
And all beauty drawn to the eye.
May my mind come alive today
To the invisible geography
That invites me to new frontiers,
To break the dead shell of yesterdays,
To risk being disturbed and changed.
May I have the courage today
To live the life that I would love,
To postpone my dream no longer
But do at last what I came here for
And waste my heart on fear no more.
REMEMBER — Joy Harjo
Remember the sky that you were born under,
know each of the star’s stories.
Remember the moon, know who she is.
Remember the sun’s birth at dawn, that is the
strongest point of time. Remember sundown
and the giving away to night.
Remember your birth, how your mother struggled
to give you form and breath. You are evidence of
her life, and her mother’s, and hers.
Remember your father. He is your life, also.
Remember the earth whose skin you are:
red earth, black earth, yellow earth, white earth
brown earth, we are earth.
Remember the plants, trees, animal life who all have their
tribes, their families, their histories, too. Talk to them,
listen to them. They are alive poems.
Remember the wind. Remember her voice. She knows the
origin of this universe.
Remember you are all people and all people
are you.
Remember you are this universe and this
universe is you.
Remember all is in motion, is growing, is you.
Remember language comes from this.
Remember the dance language is, that life is.
Remember.
POEMS that WRESTLE with WELCOME
WELCOME — Susan Eisenberg
Everything you thought you knew
must be relearned overnight.
How to walk.
Walk, not trip, over cords, 2x4s,
used coffee cups, concrete cores.
Walk, 40 pounds on your shoulder, across
rebar or a wood plank; glide,
not wobble, not look like the bounce
beneath each bootstep scares you.
How to dress yourself
to work outdoors all day midwinter
and keep warm, keep working, fingers moving;
or midsummer, with no hint of breasts.
How to climb ladders–
not a stepstool or a 4-footer–
ladders that stretch up two stories
where someone’s impatient
for that bundle of pipe.
How to get coffee–
hot and how they like it–to a crew
spread out 10 floors; to carry muffins
three blocks in a paper sack
through sheets of rain.
How to look.
To never go back empty-handed
when you’re told, Grab me a This/That
from the gangbox, if all you’ve done
is move things around, poke here and there;
if you haven’t emptied out the full contents
so the journeyman won’t shame you
by finding This/That in a quick minute,
after you’ve said, We don’t have any.
How to be dependable
but not predictable-provokable.
Not the lunch break entertainment.
How to read
blueprints,
delivery orders,
the mood on the job;
how long it’s okay to sit down for coffee;
how early you can start rolling up cords.
How to do well in school
from the back row
of a seats-assigned-Jim-Crow classroom
How to learn tricks-of-the-trade
from someone who does not like you.
How to listen, to act-don’t-ask.
To duck when someone motions, Duck!
Or when someone tells you, Don’t talk to Zeke,
to know what they mean
so you don’t even look
at Zeke, the ironworker who’s always first out,
last in, standing there, so four times a day–
start, lunch, quit–all the workers walk past him,
like a sandbar, waves washing back and forth,
that catches debris.
How to pick up the phone and call your friend,
the only one of the women not at class
the night the apprenticeship director met you all
at the door
carrying the nervous rumor
that one of the women had been raped
and you all look at each other
and it wasn’t any of you five.
How to respond–within protocol–
when someone takes your ladder or tools,
imitates your voices on the loudspeaker,
spraypaints Cunt on your Baker staging,
urinates in your hardhat,
drives to your home
where you live alone
with your daughter
and keys your truck parked
in your own driveway.
Later, you’ll need the advanced skills:
how–without dislodging the keystone–
to humiliate a person, how to threaten
a person. Deftly.
So no one’s certain for absolute
that’s what happened. Not even you.
THE UNITED STATES WELCOMES YOU — Tracy K. Smith
Why and by whose power were you sent?
What do you see that you may wish to steal?
Why this dancing? Why do your dark bodies
Drink up all the light? What are you demanding
That we feel? Have you stolen something? Then
What is that leaping in your chest? What is
The nature of your mission? Do you seek
To offer a confession? Have you anything to do
With others brought by us to harm? Then
Why are you afraid? And why do you invade
Our night, hands raised, eyes wide, mute
As ghosts? Is there something you wish to confess?
Is this some enigmatic type of test? What if we
Fail? How and to whom do we address our appeal?
SONG of WELCOME — Joseph Brodsky
Here’s your mom, here’s your dad.
Welcome to being their flesh and blood.
Why do you look so sad?
Here’s your food, here’s your drink.
Also some thoughts, if you care to think.
Welcome to everything.
Here’s your practically clean slate.
Welcome to it, though it’s kind of late.
Welcome at any rate.
____
Here’s your paycheck, here’s your rent.
Money is nature’s fifth element.
Welcome to every cent.
Here’s your swarm and your huge beehive.
Welcome to the place with its roughly five
billion like you alive.
Welcome to the phone book that stars your name.
Digits are democracy’s secret aim.
Welcome to your claim to fame.
____
Here’s your marriage, and here’s divorce.
Now that’s the order you can’t reverse.
Welcome to it; up yours,
Here’s your blade, here’s your wrist.
Welcome to playing your own terrorist;
call it your Middle East.
Here’s your mirror, your dental gleam.
Here’s an octopus in your dream.
Why do you try to scream?
____
Here’s your corncob, your TV set.
Your candidate suffering an upset.
Welcome to what he said.
Here’s your porch, see the cars pass by.
Here’s your shitting dog’s guilty eye.
Welcome to its alibi.
Here are your cicadas, then a chickadee,
the bulb’s dry tear in your lemon tea.
Welcome to infinity.
____
Here are your pills on the plastic tray,
your disappointing, crisp X-ray.
You are welcome to pray.
Here’s your cemetery, a well-kept glen.
Welcome to a voice that says “Amen.”
The end of the rope, old man.
Here’s your will, and here’s a few
takers. Here’s an empty pew.
Here’s life after you.
____
And here are your stars which appear still keen
on shining as though you had never been.
They might have a point, old bean.
Here’s your afterlife, with no trace
of you, especially of your face.
Welcome, and call it space.
Welcome to where one cannot breathe.
This way, space resembles what’s underneath,
and Saturn holds the wreath.
ONE BOOK, ONE VALLEY EVENTS
GENDER 101 with ALEX MYERS
7pm • Thurs, Sept 26
John F. Chick Room @
Madison Library, Madison, NH
PIONEERING VOICES
Portraits of Transgender People
Throughout October • Jackson Public Library
From the Family Diversity Projects & inspired by the Jackson Community Church, this installation is a “museum-quality traveling exhibit including photographs and interviews with people of all ages who are transgender and some of their partners and children. Through first-person accounts and positive images, this exhibit seeks to challenge damaging myths and stereotypes about transgender people and to educate people about this marginalized, and often invisible group of people.” The exhibit at the Library includes portraits as well as information and commentary about each portrait as a self guided tour. It will be exhibited through October.
ASK A TRANSGENDER PERSON ANYTHING
7pm • Sun, Oct 6th 7:00pm
Jackson Public Library
Sponsored by ACLU NH.
Hold an open, respectful conversation with your transgender neighbors
about what it means to be a transgender person in New Hampshire. The
event begins with our panelists sharing a little bit about themselves,
then the rest of the evening turned over to a moderated conversation
between panelists and audience.LGBTQ Social Gathering
5-7pm • Tue, Oct 8
Abenaki Trail Restaurant & Pub, North Conway
Hang out with other LGBTQ people, friends and their families. Mix, mingle, ask questions and get to know others. All are welcome!
STORIES & SONGS
with Shana Aisenberg
2pm • Sat, Oct 12
Jackson Public Library
Sponsored by ACLU NH. Aisenberg is an area musician and music teacher. Shana is Music Director at Unitarian Universalist Fellowship of the Eastern Slopes (UUFES) in Tamworth NH. Shana will be reading stories of inclusion and diversity and sharing songs from American folk traditions for everyone to sing along with. Fun for all ages.